Throughout most of human history, radical power dynamics between two people have been a part of many relationships. Whether this dynamic is between a ruler and their servant, a teacher and a student, or even a dominatrix and their submissive, the foundation of a healthy, trust-based relationship begins with safety and security.
As a femdom mistress, it is your responsibility to place your submissive’s safety above all else. This includes understanding the inherent risks of engaging in BDSM, such as rope burns or sprains, and being prepared to handle them should they arise.
First and foremost, make sure that the activities being undertaken by you and your submissive are within both of your comfort zones. This can be done by discussing, in detail, all scenarios that may arise during BDSM play and ensuring that both of you are confident with them. Once each of your comfort zones has been established, communicating any changes as soon as possible will help avoid any miscommunications during play.
Another important factor to consider is that safety should also extend beyond the physical. Having a safe word or phrase that either you or your submissive can use to end a scene is crucial. Making sure that any psychological or emotional boundaries that the submissive has are respected is also very important.
To guarantee the safety of your submissive, it is effective to have a ‘check-in’ session before, during, and after each play session. This is an opportunity to discuss how you both felt and if there were any issues that need to be addressed.
When it comes to security, the most important aspect to focus on is trust. Building a trusting relationship between both parties is absolutely essential. This can be done by establishing open communication, keeping promises, and being reliable throughout the relationship.
Finally, it is important to remember that all individuals engaging in BDSM have rights and should always be treated with respect. As a femdom mistress, it is your duty to ensure that the rights of your submissive are being taken into consideration at all times. This includes having adequate protection against discrimination, making sure that all personal information is secured and only used with consent, and putting safeguards in place should a play session go awry.
These are just a few tips to help femdom mistresses ensure the safety and security of their submissive. After all, the safety and security of your submissive should always come first. View it.
Ah, clients who show signs of distress during a session—where do I begin? Well, first and foremost, as a professional, it is important to develop a thoughtful and empathetic attitude towards clients who are exhibiting signs of distress. Every person is trying to cope and heal in their own way and at their own pace.
The first step in dealing with clients who show signs of distress during a session is to listen without judgment. Be present and put yourself in the client’s shoes. Compassion and understanding are essential for creating an authentic therapeutic relationship. Don’t just listen, also provide validation by letting the client know you heard and understood their point of view.
If the client’s distress is startling or alarming, it may be helpful to employ grounding techniques like keeping eyes open and focusing on objects in the room that are both grounding and soothing. You may even want to explore visualization techniques and encourage the client to close their eyes and use their imagination to travel somewhere calming.
Finally, be sure to provide appropriate support while avoiding putting your own opinions and beliefs onto the client. Remember, as a therapist you are not there to “fix the issue or tell the client how to think or feel. Your role is to empower them, offer compassion, and help them find evidence-based solutions to their problems.
Overall, dealing with clients who show signs of distress during a session can be quite challenging. It’s important to be patient, establish trusting I-Thou relationships, use effective communication methods, and provide a safe space for clients to express their needs and feelings. Let the client be an active participant in their own healing. They are the experts on themselves—all the therapist needs to do is provide the right kind of support.